{"id":136,"date":"2024-12-03T15:00:00","date_gmt":"2024-12-03T15:00:00","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/www.ytmatrimony.com\/blog\/?p=136"},"modified":"2024-11-14T05:48:52","modified_gmt":"2024-11-14T05:48:52","slug":"the-sinking-ship-that-isnt-called-titanic","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.ytmatrimony.com\/blog\/the-sinking-ship-that-isnt-called-titanic\/","title":{"rendered":"The sinking ship that isn’t called Titanic"},"content":{"rendered":"\n
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The movie Titanic is about a sinking ship. In this article I would like to talk about another sinking ship – the ship called \u2018relationship\u2019! Not many of us have a rip-roaring, rollicking relationship with our parents, right?<\/p>\n<\/blockquote>\n\n\n\n

How do we go about developing a resonant relationship with our parents? <\/p>\n\n\n\n

The key – I believe – lies is cultivating and nurturing the five qualities: <\/p>\n\n\n\n

1. Obedience You must be stone blind if you haven\u2019t noticed this candid command in the New Testament: \u2018Children, do what your parents tell you. This is only right\u2019 (Eph. 6:1 Peterson Version). Paul repeats the same command (Col.3:20). King Solomon has a straightforward advice: \u2018My son, keep your father\u2019s commands and do not forsake your mother\u2019s teaching\u2019 (Pr.6:20 NIV).Now do you understand why the Bible tells us, \u2018Intelligent children listen to their parents; foolish children do their own thing\u2019 (Prov.13:1 Peterson Version)! When your parents tell you to do something, don\u2019t question them. Follow the Nike philosophy: Just Do It. And hey, come on, they won\u2019t tell us impractical things to do, will they? <\/p>\n\n\n\n

2. Diligence When Moses was born, his parents had a dream for him. His parents braved Pharaoh\u2019s decree that newborn babies should be killed, by hiding him because \u2018they saw he was no ordinary child\u2019 (Heb. 11:23 NIV). Our Parents too have dreams about us – that we will do well in our studies and land a well-paying job, living as a witness for the Lord there. For those dreams to become a reality, we kids have to work hard. \u2018Lazy students embarrass their parents\u2019? (Pr.15:20 Peterson Version). It is when we lazy in our studies and work we are actually inviting our parents to get strict with us. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

3. Consistence Young Timothy \u2018took in the sacred Scriptures with his mother\u2019s milk!\u2019 Even after he grew up he stuck on to what he learnt and never let it go (2Tim. 3:14-15 Peterson Version). The result: a certificate from Paul that there was \u2018no one else quite like him\u2019 (Phil. 2:20, Peterson Version). From our youngest years we have probably been hearing admonitions and instructions from our parents. Sticking to Biblical principles and Scriptural standards of conduct taught us by our parents are so immensely important that our very life depends on it! \u2018Keep my commands and you will live …guard it well for it is your life,\u2019 (Pr. 4:4,13 NIV). Our parents too remind us of the need to cling on to those traditional timeless teachings from the Bible. Eugene Peterson eloquently brought about this emphasis in his translation of the Bible in Proverbs 6:20-23: \u2018Good friend, follow your father\u2019s good advice; don\u2019t wander off from your mother\u2019s teachings. Wrap yourself in them from head to foot, wear them like a scarf around your neck. Wherever you walk, they will guide you; wherever you rest, they\u2019ll guard you; when you wake up, they will tell you what\u2019s next. For sound advice is a beacon, good teaching is a light, moral discipline is a life path.\u2019 <\/p>\n\n\n\n

4. Acceptance: As a kid Jesus too obeyed his parents and accepted them: \u2018Jesus went back to Nazareth with them and lived obediently with them\u2019 (Lk.2:51, Peterson Version). When our parents ask us to do things that are plainly unscriptural \u2013 \u2018Give a bribe and get yourself a good job\u2019 etc \u2013 we are not obliged to obey them. But we have to be careful to resist the temptation to go for a debate competition with our parents on those issues of tension between them and us. The spirit of Peter\u2019s counsel to believing wives that unsaved husbands \u2018should be won over without words by the behaviour of their wives when they see the purity and reverence of your lives\u2019 applies to us youngsters too as we go about tackling the generation gap (1Pet. 3:1-2 NIV). And when we do have to talk on a particular issue of friction between them and us we must not sound \u2018preachy.\u2019 We rather must be polite. Jonathan\u2019s shining example is before us in this regard: Jonathan questioned his father, the jealous and envious Saul, who was bent on making him King instead of David, the man God chose for the throne. But he was courteous. \u2018Please don\u2019t sin against David. He\u2019s never done anything to harm you. He has always helped you in any way he could. Have you forgotten about the time he risked his life to kill the Philistine giant and how the Lord brought a great victory to Israel as a result?\u2019 (1Sam.19:4-5, Peterson Version). Notice Jonathan uses the word, \u2018Please!\u2019 We can never choose which set of parents we want to be born to! So the smartest thing you can do is to accept your parents – just as they are! <\/p>\n\n\n\n

5. Benevolence The Bible tells us \u2018the son is the first sign of his father\u2019s strength\u2019 (Deut.21:17, Peterson Version). It is rare to find a father on this planet who does not love his children with all his strength and want the very best for them. Even for a rebellious son, the love of the father can be huge. Think of the words that David uttered when his rebel son Absalom died: \u20180 my son Absalom! My son Absalom! If only I had died instead of you – 0 Absalom, my son, my son!\u2019 (2Sam.18:33, NIV). Our relationship with our parents would be revolutionised the moment we come to grips with this soothing revelation: no matter what we have done or who we are, our parents love us. And every action they take for us is spurred by nothing but love. That means we must look out for little ways to reciprocate that love. One way to pay them back is to let them know that we are proud of what they are doing. Rahab, the woman who housed the spies of Israel in Jericho, was so concerned about her parents that she made the spies swear that they would spare them when Israel overturned Jericho (Josh. 2). We too can show our concern for our parents. There are plenty of ways: We can write to them every week from our hostels. We can send them a card or give them a phone call on their birthdays. While at home, we sure enough can lend a helping hand in their household chores. When we spend sensibly the money they painstakingly save and send us month after month – that\u2019s a huge help. Don\u2019t be stingy with your superlatives for them.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Remember, when we grow old, get a job, settle down, we should never ever forget to look after our parents and support them! By doing these five things I have described here we would \u2018honour\u2019 our parents. Do you know that this command to honour our parents boomerangs at us a stunning eight times from the Bible (Ex. 12: 2: Deut. 5:16; Mt. 15:4; 19:19: Mk. 7:10; 10:19; Luke 18:20; Eph. 6:2)? This is one command we dare not ignore, overlook, and slight. And mind you, this is the only command of the 10 Commandments clubbed with a promise \u2013 the promise of long life (Eph. 6:2,3)! <\/p>\n\n\n\n

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Author: Mr. Duke Jeyaraj, an Engineer turned engaging youth evangelist is the founder of \u2018G power 4 Mission\u2019, Hyderabad.<\/p>\n<\/blockquote>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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